Have you ever met someone so charismatic that whatever they do or say you would always end up staring at them in awe?
Self-confidence is a skill that’s absolutely possible to be trained, it is about believing yourself in accomplishing any tasks regardless the odds. To build such skill, you have to tackle the self-critiques that you often tell yourself all the time, you need to be friends with your mind and all the elements that keep halting you down.
Just like athletes, they have to train every single day to be perfect at what they do, they have to repeat the same routine over and over again to aim their goals. Put your place in their situation, you have to be in the situation where you keep aiming for the best version of yourself. It’s not repetition when you excel to success, it’s just about practice makes perfect.
Our inner voice is an active one, constantly yaps about everything we see, hear, and feel. When you’re facing something that is too difficult to decide or to do, your head often tells you something negative that pulls you out of that situation. When you’re nervous or feeling like you’re being on edge, your head would automatically give you hundreds of reasons why you shouldn’t do it. Thoughts influence actions, hence and having a strong state of mind is the strongest suit one can have to achieve the best version of yourself. You got to believe in yourself because you are the only one who matters the most to your own self.
Build Your Close Circle
You can’t please everyone, people always judge. You need to focus on those who matter. Those who matter don’t mind, those who mind don’t matter, right? As unfortunate as it sounds, as we grow up, the circle of friends that we have would get smaller along the way. Toxic people are always there, best you can do is to limit the exposure. Having a few number of closed friends to rely on means you’ve matured, your self esteem and self worth develop you to choose which people are best for you through ups and downs. Your ride or die will become a comfort zone to go to.
Mistakes Shape a Strong Mentality
People make mistakes, let’s keep that in mind first. Problems are and will always be there, either you make them the best lesson or dwell on it. It’s how we act upon the given unfortunate events that shape us to be a better person in the future, and along the way that helps shape our confidence. Stop blaming yourself for what has happened and start fixing your mistakes by doing it better next time. On another note, people with low self-confidence see others as better or more deserving than themselves. Instead of carrying this perception, see yourself as being equal to everyone. Make a mental shift and you will automatically see an improvement in your self-confidence.
These 4 point are a definite go-to steps in building your self-esteem. New year, new you. Gotta make the best out of everything in life.
Writer: Windyannisa Cindrati
Editor: Olivia Elena Hakim&Galuh Tathya