There are some unspoken rules that say you can’t date your friend’s ex, it’s a touchy subject that not many ever have it discussed over with their friends.
However, nobody can’t control someone’s feelings and everybody should be allowed to love whoever they like, right? thus dating your friend’s ex shouldn’t be a big deal at all.
Before you date your friend’s ex-lover, here are 5 rules that you need to know:
Respect boundaries, do not assume things
You totally can date your friend’s ex, however the relationship between your friend and your crush should be cleared, and there’s no story left between them. Needless to say, be faithful to both your friend and your partner, they can be friends after a relationship and you shouldn’t be paranoid about that.
Do not ever compare your relationship to your friend’s
They had their days together, so be respectful to each other, do not ever comparing their past relationship to yours now. Comparing something never lead to anything positive, so do not even try in the first place.
Do not share your love life to your friend
You may not want to share your love life to your friend, and they may not want to listen too, so do not even start to talk. It’s less comfortable and you should be respectful to your partner and your friend as well.
Never trash talk
When you’re arguing with your friend, you can totally ask your partner for advice, or vice versa, but never trash talk them to the other. No matter how tempted you are, you should maintain the healthy relationship between all of you and you shouldn’t ask one to be on your side in the middle of an argument.
At the end of the day, dating someone is based on feelings and comfort between one another, and dating your friend’s ex shouldn’t halt you from expressing your emotions to the love of your life. Dating your friend can be done without hurting each other’s feelings but you also need to be mindful while doing so.
Editor: Olivia Elena Hakim Writer: Windyannisa Cindrati
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