Anti-Commitment People, These Are What You Need to Know

In a healthy relationship, there are reasons and goals that a couple wishes to accomplish through their relationship, it could be living together, marriage, or even kids.

But for some other cases there are times when such foresights are not even visible to see. There are some people who adores relationship but is too afraid to make a commitment—if you are just like them, then these are things that you need to know.
Quoting from Channa Bromley on Bustle, a matchmaker and dating coach, “a true commitment-phobe is generally someone with an avoidant attachment style, it’s a form of putting on armor. It’s a defense mechanism to protect them from potential pain.” There are more other reasons why someone can become even more reluctant to be in a relationship;
  • Trauma
    Trauma of being in an abusive relationship, or witnessing the failure of a relationship can be the cause of commitment-phobe.
  • Fear of being responsible for another person
    In a relationship it takes two person to be responsible for each other, and sometimes it could be a little too overwhelming to take care of anyone else.
  • Addressing excitement as anxiety
    The excitement of being in a new relationship may also be taken differently as an anxiety. This is what usually happened to those who like to ghost their partners, someone who walks out even before the relationship begins to bloom.
There are many reasons to avoid getting emotionally involved with someone else, and the first thing you need to do is ask yourself, find out the root cause of your reasons and find the ways to fix them. It’s okay if you’ve been hurt, because you can love again. Every time you open your heart for someone, there will always be some risks that follow, however to conquer your fear you need to understand yourself first, accept your past and love yourself now to be ready for your own future.
Editor: Olivia Elena Hakim
Writer: Windyannisa Cindrati
Source: bustle, psychologytoday

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