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How to Know If Your Boyfriend is Lying
Building a trust in a relationship is definitely not an easy task, in fact how can you actually tell whether your boyfriend is lying to you or being truthful?
To know if your boyfriend is lying or not, here are 5 signs to help you recognize if someone is lying to you or not;
Pause before answering.
A pause for a bit too long before answering indicates that that person is still processing on what to say as an answer as he prepares the scenario to tell—the lies.
Too much details.
Men are a straightforward talkers—they don’t usually add references to their stories, then to be more convincing they would add more spices to his stories, hence you can see it as an indicator when he lies.
“A deceptive person will often hide her mouth or eyes when she’s being untruthful.” Said Susan Carnicero, a former CIA and the author of Spy the Lie and Founding Partner. It’s a natural tendency when someone wants to cover their lies, so their hands would go around their faces area while responding to questions.
Distinct body language.
There are more distinct signs that indicate someone is lying, such as biting or licking their lips, pulling the hair to behind the ears, change in tone while talking, throat clearing or swallowing movements. But also the grooming signs—adjusting his tie or glasses, and straightening his shirts. Pay attention to every move that he makes as anything could be a sign.
Avoiding the topic.
Last one, if he keeps on changing the subject in the middle of conversation after all the too-much-details he’s given and all the odd gestures that he shows, than it’s clear to say that he is lying.
Source: Bustle, Carnicero, Susan. 2013. Spy the Lie: Former CIA Officers Teach You How to Detect Deception, New York: St. Martin’s Griffin ; Parade.com
Writer: Windyannisa Cindrati
Editor: Olivia Elena Hakim