In a relationship, we often feel a pang of jealousy caused by our own insecurities. It is normal until it becomes a toxic and ruins your relationship.
Dr. Lisa Firestone, the co-authored of Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice said “The critical inner voice is formed out of painful early life experiences in which we witnessed or experienced hurtful attitudes toward us.” Hence, whether you’re single or in a relationship, those inner voices of yours can come and caused a havoc in your mind and made you fear of some sort of affection. Listening to these baseless critics toward yourself might result in your interpersonal relationship and eventually made you feel desperate over it. So how to overcome insecurities in your relationship? Here are some steps that you need to understand:
Find the root of your insecurity
There must be some things that made you feel insecure toward yourself and the relationship. Think about those things and communicate them to your partner, they deserve to know what happened to you and what can they do to make you comfortable with them.
Stop Lugging that baggage around
As it is said above, insecurities is built by hurtful experiences in the past, and it could be your past relationship or how your trust was once broken. You need to remind yourself that, you can’t change your past but you totally can change your future.
Trust your partner and yourself
Trust not only means sharing your deepest secret, but also by putting yourself physically and emotionally in the relationship. You need to give yourself a chance to trust someone else but still keep in faith with yourself too.
Stop avoiding uncomfortable conversations
This happens all the time where you dodge some questions or situations that you believe you can’t handle. A healthy relationship is built by having a good communication between each other, and it means about anything. Insecurities may come with some groundless reasons and they could raise because you avoid to talk about it. So be transparent about your feelings with your partner and it’s important.
Source: Psychalive, psychologytoday
Writer: Windyannisa Cindrati
Editor: Olivia Elena Hakim
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