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I Forgive You, But Do I Forget You?
Gandhi once said, “The weak can never forgive, forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”
The hardest thing a human could ever do is forgive—it may sound easy but in reality, forgiving something that have engraved a bloodless wound in someone’s heart is way harder than any other human interactions that ever existed.
According to Johann Arnold, the author of “Why Forgive?” forgiveness is a deliberate decision to release the feelings of resentment or desire for revenge against someone who has hurt you. Forgiveness may not heal your wounds or not even be acknowledged—yet it will help you from being drowned into resentment and it will guard you against the temptation of lashing out your anger. Although the person who needs to be forgiven does not deserve such an act by any means, forgiveness is all about you—who is ready to release the hatred from your heart.
Forgive and forget, that’s the easiest thing people could say to someone who’s deeply hurt and tormented inside. However, even though it seems so hard to do when you’re in pain but here are few reasons why you should forgive no matter how hard it is.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean you reconciled for what had happened in the past.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean you have to welcome that person back in your life.
Forgiveness is giving you a room to not be emotionally anger.
Forgiveness helps you to let go of the desire to get even.
Forgiveness can benefit your mind and body.
Forgiveness can repair your relationships and ends the cycle of hatred.
Forgiveness is the door to happiness.
Forgiving is also a form of healing and it’s the first step of setting yourself free from negative feelings.
Source: Allgood, E. 2013. The Art of Forgiveness, Trondheim: NTNU; Arnold, Johann. 2007. Why Forgive? Pennsylvania: Plough Publishing House; Good Men Project.
Writer: Windyannisa Cindrati
Editor: Olivia Elena Hakim