Living in the social media era, we often stumble upon many posts talking about spreading positivity—having a positive attitude at all cost, stressing that having negative thoughts should be demolished by always looking for the bright side. But is it really wrong to feel blue?
Toxic positivity, it’s a term or concept that focusing on surrounding self with positive thoughts and rejecting anything that trigger any negative emotions. This concept often happened as a form of response or even support toward someone else’s situation. Endless encouraging support can’t actually lead to the bad end aka toxic. Spreading positivity is a good thing, but pressing it onto someone else during their lowest point can lead them to manipulate their feelings—resulting in a longer period of negative emotions.
People who experience negative moments want to be listened, they want their feelings to be validated, thus if you’re trying to help someone, the most important thing is not solving the problems but listening attentively to their stories.
According to a study by the University of California, The Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, indicates that “those who accept their negative emotions rather than rushing to feel “better” experience less negative emotions over time, leading to greater psychological health and more emotional resilience. Referring to the study, it turned out that accepting the negative emotions, create a healthy environment for the soul, calming yourself down without having to force a good feeling when you’re not feeling it at all.
Writer: Windyannisa Cindrati
Editor: Olivia Elena Hakim
Source: refinery29, McGuirk, L., Kuppens, P., Kingston, R., & Bastian, B. (2018). Does a culture of happiness increase rumination over failure?
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