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Your Heart is Broken, but It Can Be Healed Here are 5 Steps to Put Your Pieces Back Together
Heartbreak is indeed an insidious feeling anyone could ever felt, it’s that moment when you feel useless, unable to function, even breathing could be something so painful to do. You sure are hurting, but you can’t see the blood flooding from your wound, cause it’s not something visible, but it is there inside your heart.
Falling in love is easy, but falling out of love is awfully difficult. God create humans to love, to feel, and to be vulnerable even though loving something or someone is full of risks. Loving would always be a battle between your heart and your brain, like doing a sky diving, your brain tells you it’s crazy, you aint a bird, and you can die from it, but your heart believes that you need to soar and fly, as it’s always been a thing to do on your bucket list. Once your heart conflicted with something too painful to bear, your head would give you a warning to not walking in the same walls, and this is why though it’s broken your heart still has a voice for you to listen to.
Guy Winch once said during his TED Talks, “When your heart is broken, the same instincts you ordinarily rely on will time and again lead you down the wrong path. You can’t simply trust what your mind is telling you.” Meaning that if your heart is broken, you have a tendency to not think clearly and just simply ignoring the fact that you are broken at heart. Therefore you need to recognize your pain and stop providing your heart with its ecstasy that makes it hurting even worse.
Mending a broken heart is never easy. There is no quick way to stop your heart from hurting so madly, but it is not impossible, there are ways to it; here are the steps you can do to heal yourself.
Stop Idealizing Your Ex
Brain studies show that the addiction that is caused by heartbreak is the same with what is felt by the addicts. When you broke up with your partner, you’re running out of your heroin and this caused you to remembering the good times you spent together. Stop remembering the cherries on top of your cakes, instead reminiscing the awful things that happened between you, how bad he made you feel, and what made you guys broke up in the first place. You can start by diminish all your memories with him, stop figuring him as the best you’ve ever had.
After a breakup, the world seems to turn itself against you, you can’t focus, you lose your appetite, and you just want to hide yourself from the world, however this time is actually the best time to pick up a new hobby or redoing things you once loved. At the end of the day, going through a breakup it’s necessary for you to stay focus on things you enjoy doing.
Give Yourself Time to Heal
As we said earlier, falling in love and falling out of love would always be a battle within your mind, and you need a weapon to win a battle, and it is time. Time flies and time heals, but you need to put your effort so time can ease your pain without you knowing. It will be painful and difficult, but you’ll get through it. First you need to find the closure to halt your addiction to feel loved by that certain person. You need to let go, don’t rush things out and don’t go around your pain, instead go through it, you have to accept the fact that the thing between you both is over. As you managed to distract yourself with new hobbies, doing things that you love, reuniting with old friends and stuff you won’t notice how fast time recovers your wound.
Getting over your heartbreak is hard but if you refuse to be misled by your mind and take your steps to heal, you can minimize your suffering. Try by stepping outside your comfort zone, try to reconnect with your family and friends, approach them and try to have a good time with them. During the first stage after getting a heart broken is definitely too difficult to feel at ease, hence you can try to console yourself to your persons. They said two is better than one right? That is why you need to open your heart and get through it, when you have someone by your side he or she can help you get back on your feet faster and stronger.
Heartbreak is a master manipulator, it gets our mind to do the absolute opposite of what we need to recover is remarkable. To heal your wound you need to have compassion to yourself, do not hide your pain and think that it’s going to heal by itself, cause your role on putting the pieces back together is the most important thing. Be patience with the pain you’re going through, do not rely on it though, do not embrace the pain, and instead show it to your trusted one. Let them be there for you. It is truly not going to be an easy battle, but with your weapons you surely can win this.
Writer: Windyannisa Cindrati
Editor: Olivia Elena Hakim